A private program for high-achieving women who are ready to change their relationship with alcohol—and feel in control again.
With Nearly 20 Years of Addiction Treatment Experience A Licensed Addictions Counselor | Internationally Certified | 17 Years in Recovery
Clinical expertise + Lived experience + Complete confidentiality
I help high-functioning women who feel overwhelmed, stuck in patterns with alcohol, and quietly out of control—regain control, rebuild self-trust, and feel clear again.
You’ve built a successful life.
From the outside, everything looks fine.
You show up, You handle things, You’re the one people count on.
But behind the scenes… something feels off.
You’re thinking about drinking more than you want to
You’re making rules—and breaking them
You wake up disappointed, even when nothing “went wrong”
You keep telling yourself you’ll figure it out on your own
And maybe the hardest part is…
No one really knows.
This is where things start to shift.
This isn’t about extremes.
It’s not about labels.
And it’s not about becoming someone else.
It’s about understanding what’s actually going on beneath the surface—
so you can change it in a way that lasts.
Together we will begin to focus on
Breaking the cycle of overthinking + overdrinking
Understanding your patterns (without judgment)
Rebuilding trust in your decisions
Creating a relationship with alcohol that feels aligned—or leaving it behind entirely
You will begin to experience
Less mental noise around drinking
More consistency and follow-through
Clearer mornings, clearer decisions
A sense of control that doesn’t feel forced
Do you wonder if you even have a drinking problem?
You don't have to keep having the same conversation with yourself about alcohol.
You can be successful, responsible, and capable—and still feel exhausted by your relationship with drinking.
Loosening the Grip
A 12-Week Experience for Women Ready to Change Their Relationship With Alcohol
Maybe you drink to quiet your mind, relieve stress, manage resentment, or finally stop being responsible for everyone and everything.
But what once felt like relief may now be creating more anxiety, regret, and frustration.
Loosening the Grip helps you understand the emotional patterns behind drinking and develop healthier ways to navigate life's challenges.
- ✓ Understand what's driving your drinking.
- ✓ Learn to manage emotions without escaping them.
- ✓ Break patterns of perfectionism, overworking, and people-pleasing.
- ✓ Rebuild confidence and trust in yourself.
What if you didn't wait until January?
The holidays don't have to be another reason to put yourself last. You can begin changing your relationship with alcohol now.
Tamara Kirby Counseling
Is Ranked As ONE Of The Top 10 Counseling Services in Phoenix, Arizona.
Hi, I’m Tamara.
Before becoming a Licensed Addictions Counselor, I was a professional woman, raising a child, managing responsibilities, and quietly struggling with my own drinking. From the outside, everything looked fine. Inside, I felt the weight of shame, secrecy, and the exhausting effort of trying to stay in control.
Today, I bring nearly two decades of clinical experience, along with my own 17-years recovery, to help women like you break free from that cycle. I’m a Licensed Addictions Counselor (LAC), Internationally certified through the International Certification & Reciprocity Consortium, and a member of the National Association of Addiction Professionals. But what truly sets my work apart is the combination of professional expertise and lived experience—I understand both the clinical side of addiction and the deeply personal, hidden struggle behind it.
Together, we uncover what’s really driving the patterns—whether it’s stress, emotional overload, relationship dynamics, or unresolved pain—so you can finally experience clarity, emotional stability, and a sense of control that feels real and lasting.
I thought I just needed to stop drinking—what I actually needed was this.
“I started working with Tamara after becoming sober. At the time, I felt alone on my journey and didn’t fully understand what living without alcohol really meant. Through Tamara’s coaching, I’ve learned that sobriety is so much more than simply not drinking—it’s about creating an emotionally healthy, fulfilling life. Her programs have given me community, strength, and the reminder that none of us are alone. Thank you, Tamara, and thank you to all the courageous women I’ve met along the way.”
— Vicki, CLIENT